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Time for reflection

I have always had a reflective practice. It has helped me connect, align (my guiding word for 2020) and grow forward, in both my business and in my life. 

It began when I was little; I was always the deep thinker, the seeker, the sensitive one who always looked further than what was in front of her. I found it has helped me to see what worked, what didn’t work, and what could be changed. It allowed me to reframe my perspective and improve, which lead me to living a magical life of freedom. 

In my healing journey, I spent a lot of time reflecting on my life. The funny thing about having space for yourself in life is that you are almost forced to reflect.  It happens naturally within that sacred space, and that my dreamers, is where the magic happens. 

I get it. Some of you are thinking to yourself, “but how can I create space in my already full and busy life? It’s impossible. I just can’t right now. Maybe down the road when the kids are grown, the bills are paid, blah, blah, blah.” Nope. Sorry, not sorry, but that’s not how it works. That’s not how big magic is created.

Creating Space

Creating space for yourself in your life to think, to breathe, to reflect, to feel and to HEAL must be intentional and deliberate for it to empower you. It’s not always perfect timing and it doesn’t always feel safe and comfortable. Creating space can be downright scary! But let me tell you something; when space is needed in your life, it doesn’t ask permission. It comes barging in, in the form of resistance, illness, “stuckness”, sleeplessness, anxiety, depression, feelings of “lostness” and disconnection, compensatory strategies (emotional eating, anyone?), the list goes on. It forces its way in until you have no choice but to do something about it.  Sound familiar? 

Making the brave and bold move to create space in your life, to slow down and to simplify things so you can get clear about what you actually want, need and wish to create, is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself. I know because I’ve done it. Many times. Sometimes by choice; sometimes by force, but when I’ve allowed space to partner with me in this deliberate and intentional way, ALWAYS, yes, ALWAYS, my eyes were opened to what my heart and soul had been crying for. Then, and only then, have I been able to see the magic, make the magic, be the magic that creates a life aligned and fulfilled. A life of Freedom. 

Big Magic

2019 forced me to create space. I was grieving the loss of my parents, I was sick, tired, sad and lost. Not exactly the ingredient to make magic, right? But, I have honed the skill of radical self- awareness. I can now see the signs. I reflected on my past and realized my own “stuckness” was begging me to make space, to be brave and courageous enough to take a step back. To slow down. And to allow myself to feel, to heal, to see clearly and to decide what I needed in MY OWN LIFE to truly feel free.

And I found it.

I found my magic again.  And I couldn’t see it or feel it through the clutter of a busy (ugh, that word) life. I couldn’t see it through the forcing and the “shoulding” and the continuing to try to show up in a way that didn’t align to my core. That didn’t align with what I value most in all aspects of my life. FREEDOM. 

Then I got to work. 

What was missing from my life? What needed to go? What could I improve on and what was going well? What new habits did I need to practice that supported this freedom life?  When I cut out the noise around me, I was able to tap into my soul and ask myself all of the questions I had been avoiding, and then to answer them with truth and realness. The answers WERE the magic! 

The Other Side of HEAL with Shari

By creating space, I was able to feel.

By being stuck, I was able to heal.

By going deep, I was able to get real.

The pain of “stuckness” forced me to create space. Space guided me to connect to my core. The connection allowed me to find my magic again.

I realized what was missing, went out and found it, and I invited it into my life. Intentionally and deliberately.

I needed to be part of a team again.

I needed to feel the energy exchange only hands-on healing can provide.

I needed to reignite my passion for holistic skincare.

And so, I did.

The Magic and Freedom I have created in my life, being able to work from home as a Holistic Freedom Life Coach AND to work with an incredible team of hands-on healers at Province Apothecary as a Holistic Skincare Therapist is a dream. A dream I created for myself by creating space for the answers to arrive, and then to act in the direction of my dreams.

Magic, freedom and a life fulfilled are available to us all.

If you feel stuck, let me help you.

You can find me at Province Apothecary, Wednesdays, Thursdays + Sundays.

Love + freedom + glowing skin,

Shari xo

Holistic Health + Lifestyle Coach - Newmarket, Aurora, Keswick, Heal with Shari
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Get Unstuck by Simplifying Your Life + Move Confidently In the Direction of Your Dreams

If you read this title and immediately thought, “Life Goals!”, then you are in the right place. And you are always in a safe place of love + non-judgement here at HEAL. You belong here so let’s get unstuck together so we can all move confidently in the direction of our dreams + live the lives we have imagined, as Henry David Thoreau said a gagillion years ago. Such timeless wisdom. Le sigh.

Staying Stuck Sucks (say that 5 times fast)

As a Holistic Lifestyle + Mindset Coach, my clients come to me stuck. Stuck in unhealthy habits. Stuck in unhealthy relationships. Stuck in unfulfilling careers. Stuck in stagnant friendships + finances. Stuck in the muddy pool of old stories + programming filled with self-doubt, self-loathing, self-criticism + fear. STUCK! My job as a coach is to empower them to dig deep to find the root of the “stuckness” + to kick through what’s blocking them or slowing them down from living the life of their dreams. And to get out of their own way in order to take Empowered Action forward. In consistent, manageable steps. On. Their. Own. Terms.

Are you feeling me, Sister? I got you.  The key is to SIMPLIFY your life in all areas. Streamline things so the flow is, well, “flowy”. Keep the good stuff + get rid of the bad.  Right now, you’re rolling your eyes + saying, “yah right” + I feel you, but stick with me Kid, and we’ll go places.  Pinky swear.

Saying NO to things that no longer fit into the truth of how you want to live your life isn’t always easy but it’s necessary in order to become unstuck. They are called BOUNDARIES + creating them + sticking to them no matter what is a powerful way to unstick yourself + allow the flow of your life to just get on with it already! Boundaries are a whole other blog, but they are our friends + they deserve an honourable mention here today. Thanks Boundaries! Talk soon!

Streamlining Your Life

I am currently in the process of streamlining my life + my business + let me tell you how free I am feeling these days. I am out of the frazzled hustle + it just feels easier. We all want our lives to feel easier, don’t we? There’s something so magical about clearing clutter, making space + trimming the dead + unruly branches of our lives. Not only can we SEE things more clearly, but it gives us space to breathe. So, let’s start creating magic by simplifying our lives, becoming unstuck + moving forward in creating the lives we dream of allowing for optimal health + wellness, deep, harmonious relationships, solid finances, fulfilling careers + a strong connection to Mama Universe, trusting that she has our back on this but only when we tell the truth about what we truly want.  Ready?

As a Holistic Lifestyle + Mindset Coach, I try my best to live a healthy lifestyle. Is it perfect? Nah, but it’s balanced + in alignment with how I want to show up in the world. (most days).  I want to simplify things for you in a way that makes sense so let’s look at your life as a perfectly healthy + balanced plate of food. Yup. You heard me.  Eating healthy isn’t about restriction but adding an abundance of nutrient dense foods to fill your plate- quality proteins, healthy fats + loads of leafy greens. You are not taking away from your life, but you are adding MORE of the stuff that fuels you + feeds you + lights you up. You with me?

Introducing the Big 5 Areas of Life

So, I want to invite you to take a good look at the Big 5 areas of your life:

  • Career,
  • Finances,
  • Relationships,
  • Health +
  • Connection to That Which is Greater.

One at a time I invite you to explore the aspects of those areas that are sucking your energy with little to no return + start trimming. When you trim the fat, so to speak, you are left with only the good stuff. There is space for inspiration, space to flow, space to invite the people, experiences + things into your life that are in alignment with your goals + dreams that will energize you to become unstuck.

It’s a gift to be able to create the lives of our dreams + it all comes down to choices + Empowered Action Steps in the right direction.  Will you choose the life-sucking fat that’s keeping you stuck or the magical, energizing, flow-producing  nutrient-rich greens to fill your plate? You get to decide what stays + what goes. You just need to start + if you’re still stuck after trying this exercise, let’s talk.

I invite you to join the conversation. You can connect via Facebook, Instagram, or leave a comment right here on the blog.

With light, love + empowered action always,

Shari xo