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Finish The Year Strong

Hmmm kaaaayyyy, we’ve all heard this statement a few hundred times + it seems that everywhere we turn someone is telling us how ‘finishing the year strong’ is key for setting ourselves up for success in the new year. Whether you’re an entrepreneur hustling for a killer Q4; or someone who has put health as a priority + isn’t willing to let the Holiday Season Food Frenzy kill your groove, finishing the year strong is a way of finding completeness with the year. It’s about closure, the ultimate in Follow-Through, and about giving yourself something to REALLY celebrate on New Year’s Eve. I am not here to argue this perspective, but I am here to offer some perspective, because, well… LIFE.

As a relatively new solo-preneur, I have put much blood, sweat + tears into setting goals; employing strategies, re-visiting what worked + what didn’t + working hard at doing what I have to in order to ‘finish strong’ from quarter to quarter, month to month, week to week + day to day. I take workshops + courses, listen to podcasts, read books, engage in challenges, hire coaches + participate in support groups to keep my biz flowing in the direction of growth + to keep me in the game of finishing strong in all that I do.

I was on track to finish strong. I had the plans + the inspired motivation to execute a strong finish in 2018. I saw this as an awesome segue to a strong 2019. And then Life lifed.

When Life Throws You A Curve

My mom died + in the weeks I spent by her side during her graceful transition to her Spirit + Soul Life, I lost track of my goals + my plans + what I needed to do to achieve a strong finish to the year. My goal was to help my dying mother feel loved + feel safe + feel ready to let go. My goal was also to step up my mindful presence when it was most needed. To give myself permission to fully just Be where I wanted + needed to. I would never have the luxury of a do-over of this experience.

I detached from all things biz in the most responsible ways I could. I didn’t abandon my business, but my attention + energies did go in a different direction. One that I CHOSE for myself. I stepped away from my plan to finish strong in the final quarter of the business year + instead chose to SHOW UP strong for my mom in her final days of LIFE. And it taught me that we can plan + plan + plan our lives, but LIFE is gonna life + that is where the lessons lie.

A New Kind of Finishing Strong

You see, Beautiful Dreamers, in the re-jigging of my focus, my plans to finish the year strong took on a new look + my focus shifted in the most beautiful + self-honouring way.

  • instead of trying to be more visible in my biz, I gave myself permission to get quiet + to look inward to see what I truly needed to heal.
  • instead of filling my days with tasks, I gave myself space to lean into the grief + not try to bypass the healing process.
  • instead of telling those who asked how I was doing that I was ‘fine,’ I told them the truth. Sometimes it was, “I’m okay,” sometimes it was, “I’m really sad” + other times it was, “I’m pissed off at the world.” But I chose to NEVER say I was fine when I wasn’t, just for others’ sake.
  • instead of being the one to be there to support everyone + help them to rise, I allowed myself to lean on others, to ask for support + to practice the art of receiving, which is never an easy task for me, but I did it.
  • instead of ‘muscling through’ in true superhero fashion, I let myself feel ALL the feels associated with such a great loss. I did some deep inner work to release myself of the pain + guilt + old stories from my past. It got ugly but it felt like freedom.

A Shift in Thought

I think about my plans to finish strong this year + whatever that meant to me before my mom passed away has shape-shifted into something even more empowering + healing than numbers + dollars. I am finishing the year strong in a different way now. A way that feels much more powerful, much more in flow + much more aligned to how I want to feel in my life, always. As I set my intentions for 2019, I have the reminder that Life happens FOR US, not TO US + sometimes we have to re-define what that means for ourselves. But, regardless of the twists and turns life hands us, when we are true to what really matters to us, we will always finish strong.

With light, love + empowered action always,

Shari xo

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The Daydream Believers Tribe

My school teachers all said I was a very good student, but my report cards always said I daydreamed too much. For years I was conditioned to view daydreaming as “bad.”  I still did it, daily. How could I NOT?!  It was + always will be part of my heart, my soul, my entire being. I know that sounds dramatic, but daydreaming truly is part of my identity. It’s who I am. And thankfully, now, it’s a part of me that I embrace + I am proud of + that stretches me to take action in the name of my dreams.

Dreaming is Believing

I decided a very long time ago, that I would re-write that old, self-limiting story that “Daydreaming is bad for me.” I replaced it with a new, more EMPOWERING story where DAYDREAMING is the superhero in my life. It is the catalyst + fuel I need in order to BELIEVE I can make all my dreams come true. Daydreaming has become my partner-in-crime. My BFF. My Soul Mate. And because of my trusty friend The Daydream, here I am, at age 45, co-creating a life I could only imagine, well—you got it—dream of!

As a Solo-Preneur, I get to decide what that life looks like FOR myself, BY myself + on MY OWN terms. Since I’m right smack dab in the middle of the scary-but-exhilarating process of creating my DREAM LIFE + BELIEVING I can have it all + deserve it all, I thought I’d share a little of what that means. My hope is to inspire you to give yourself permission to dream a little dream + believe it’s possible for you. Then you can take action + see what unfolds for you.

I am not + never truly am, detached from my business. It’s who I am. Staying connected to my work feels right, and yet I align my days to reflect my core values, beliefs + dreams. One of these dreams was a life + career that would be location independent. I always knew I wanted to be able to work from the backyard in my hammock, from my boat, or from the beach. I daydreamed this life a long time ago + now it’s mine to live. In Real Life, Folks! I am no different from any of you, but I DID decide that being a Daydream Believer is going to help me, not hinder me. And I BELIEVE you can create your dream life too. All it takes is a little ol’ daydream.

Dream-Believe-Do-Repeat

When you consistently BELIEVE in yourself + in your dreams, and you commit HARD to this belief, you can BE, DO + HAVE anything your heart desires. This, My Friends, is a conviction I live, thrive + will eventually die by. I build my beliefs upon my daydreams because I KNOW + TRUST that it’s the way to get my brain to figure out the “hows”  + to attract the people, things + opportunities necessary to make it all happen. Then I take MASSIVE ACTION, fear + all!  I try a bunch of different things until I land on what works. As Pema Chodron says, “Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth”. The TRUTH here, friends, is YOUR DREAMS MATTER.  Dreams + Belief + commitment + action = success. Wash, rinse + repeat as new daydreams arise.

My wish is to inspire you to dream big + believe + commit + act + grow + evolve +  LIVE YOUR DREAMS. Follow my journey + as I grow, you will too. We’ll be DAYDREAM BELIEVERS together as Tribe-Mates. I got your back, Dreamer.

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Start Dreaming

I invite you to begin now with this challenge:

  • DAYDREAM daily about what you’d like your future to look like + BELIEVE it can be yours + commit HARD to that belief.
  • Allow your mind to DREAM up ways to make it happen.
  • Step into that Future Life as though it’s happened already.
  • Feel it. Practice it. Love it. Live it.

My grade school teachers said I daydreamed too much, well I call bullsh*t on that, because my daydreams have led me to set goals + to believe in them and in myself + to commit so hard that success has been inevitable. I want this for you too.

Join my Daydream Believers Tribe on Facebook I invite you to join the conversation. You can connect via Facebook, Instagram, or leave a comment right here on the blog.

With light, love + empowered action always,

Shari xo