Tag Archive for: Help for Feeling Stuck

Welcome back!

As my social media feed is bombarded with back-to-school photos of every kid on the planet, I can’t help but think that there is a “welcome back” in there for all of us.

September is New Year’s Eve’s little sister (and is secretly-not-so-secretly my favourite month) and no matter what age or chapter of life you are in, there’s the feeling of a fresh start, a shift, a “welcome back”.

Wait, for me too?

Yes, YOU! For those of you who don’t have kids but took some much-needed time this summer to chill, to have fun and to re-connect to all the good things that bring you joy, you are now ready to get back to some routine. For my fellow entrepreneurs who chose businesses that allowed you to slow things down when the weather is warmer, you are now gearing up to hit the ground running for a strong final quarter. And for those of us who needed the space and time this summer to work on ourselves, to heal, to realign and to find freedom where we felt stuck – welcome back.

Shift Into Glide

It’s not always easy to shift from that feeling of FREEDOM in the summer months to gliding back into your regular work groove, however, what I know to be true is that routines and rituals help. As a freedom finder and Life Coach, many of my clients struggle with anxiety and stickiness during this transition, so here’s a simple list of things that have helped them (and me) to Shift into Glide:

  1. Re-visit your goals and map out what you want to accomplish for yourself in the next four months. Write them down. Find out what support do you need to help you get there. Invest in it.
  2. Take some time to look at your weekly and monthly calendars. Set up work routines and tasks that are consistent and aligned with your goals. Block them in and begin to follow through like a boss. If the follow-through isn’t your jam, get an accountability partner/coach.
  3. Get back to into a regular sleep schedule that will consistently have you getting your eight hours a night, and have you feeling in control of your days. Pick a time that works for your life and stick to it.
  4. Get back to create morning and evening rituals that bookend your days with intention. Link them to how you want to feel, how you want to show up and how you want your days/weeks/months to look. For example, set daily intentions, give gratitude, create mantras, meditate, read, listen to podcasts, journal – find your own rituals and make them a habit by practicing them.
  5. Block-in time for consistent movement, mindfulness and self-care and COMMIT to it. Put these things into your calendar as non-negotiable. Taking care of yourself is a habit that is built by process, not event. It takes time. Don’t think you’ll follow through? Pair up with a friend and commit to each other.

Easing yourself back into simple, fun and meaningful routines and rituals can help you to shift into glide. It will help you cruise right into this new chapter, this new season, this new opportunity to show up and live your best life. If you’ve been feeling lost, disconnected and stuck with this transition, you’re not alone.

Meet yourself exactly where you are, with love, compassion, and patience, and take one step forward. Begin to create your own routines and rituals that get you out of bed, fire you up and inspire you to take steps forward in the direction of your dreams. I’m here if you need a loving and supportive stretch. WELCOME BACK.

Love and Freedom always,

Shari xo

 

 

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Finding Freedom

Freedom. Ahhh. Just the sound of this word feels like a deep belly exhale. It allows your shoulders to drop from your ears just a little. It brings a softened smile to your face. Freedom often reminds us of a time when we were younger and free of the stressors of adulting. The struggle is real, my beautiful dreamers, but you never have to go finding freedom alone. I got you.

Freedom has been my number one value for as long as I can remember, it’s the core of what I help my Life Coaching clients to find in their lives too. But finding freedom can seem so ambiguous, impossible even, which is why it’s so important to define what freedom actually means for YOU, in all areas of your life. I’ve been on the finding freedom train so long I am practically driving the dang thing, so I know a thing or two about what freedom feels like, for me. But I also know what does not feel like freedom and how to re-align myself to get back on the train. You can too!

Clarify, Define, Align

If freedom is what you are longing for, but you aren’t exactly sure what that means for you, it’s probably because you haven’t defined what it actually FEELS like in the different areas of your life. You see, it’s the FEELING that matters most, and what feels like freedom to me, might be completely different from what it feels like for you. Because you need to clarify what freedom looks and feels like in the major areas of your life to be able to decide if what you are doing is in alignment with freedom, or off the rails of the freedom train.

Here is a practice I do with myself and with all of my clients.

1) List out the major areas of your life – I call them The Big 7:

– Health
– Relationships
– Finances
– Career/Purpose
– Creativity
– Connection to Source/God/Spirit
– Leisure/Hobbies.

2) Clarify exactly what your life would look and feel like in each of these areas if freedom was present. Write it out in as much detail as you can. See yourself experiencing freedom in all areas with ease. Who would you be? What would you be doing? How would you show up? What wouldn’t you be doing? Who would you be with? Where would you be? What would you be feeling in every cell of your body?

Becoming crystal clear on what freedom feels like in each of The Big 7 will help you make decisions in your life that align you with what you value most. Because, if it isn’t clear then how on earth will you know if it’s there or if it isn’t?! It’s important that you clarify YOUR definition of freedom, and not your mother’s, your sister’s, your partner’s or societies. YOURS.

3) Now every time you are deciding, in any area of your life, you can ask yourself, “does this feel like freedom?” If the answer is “yes”, then go for it! If the answer is “no”, take a step back and evaluate what is missing or out of alignment for it to feel like freedom and for you to hold your own integrity. Shift gears, course-correct or simply get off that train altogether.

Trusting your inner guide is all you need in order to know if you are in integrity with your values or not. Resistance, anxiety, compensatory strategies and buffering to avoid are all ways your inner guide is trying to tell you something is off. These signals are vital messengers trying to alert you that you are off course in your quest to finding freedom. Remember, these signals are not telling you to quit! They are reminding you of what you value most, which is freedom, they are helping you to re-align with what matters most to you in your life! How awesome is that!

In everything I do, from the foods I eat, to the people I spend time with, to the work I throw myself into, I continue to ask myself if it feels like freedom. It’s an automatic response for me now because I’ve practiced it so much. My soul now knows what freedom looks and feels like. Is it always perfect? Heck no! But, I know to trust the signs and signals when something is off. I am better able to make decisions that align with my values, keep my in integrity with myself, allow me to live the life I know, I want and deserve. Finding freedom isn’t as hard as you think it is. Freedom equals clarity, courage, commitment and consistency. Freedom is yours if you want it. You’ve got this and I’ve got you. xo

Holistic Health + Lifestyle Coach - Newmarket, Aurora, Keswick, Heal with Shari
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Get Unstuck by Simplifying Your Life + Move Confidently In the Direction of Your Dreams

If you read this title and immediately thought, “Life Goals!”, then you are in the right place. And you are always in a safe place of love + non-judgement here at HEAL. You belong here so let’s get unstuck together so we can all move confidently in the direction of our dreams + live the lives we have imagined, as Henry David Thoreau said a gagillion years ago. Such timeless wisdom. Le sigh.

Staying Stuck Sucks (say that 5 times fast)

As a Holistic Lifestyle + Mindset Coach, my clients come to me stuck. Stuck in unhealthy habits. Stuck in unhealthy relationships. Stuck in unfulfilling careers. Stuck in stagnant friendships + finances. Stuck in the muddy pool of old stories + programming filled with self-doubt, self-loathing, self-criticism + fear. STUCK! My job as a coach is to empower them to dig deep to find the root of the “stuckness” + to kick through what’s blocking them or slowing them down from living the life of their dreams. And to get out of their own way in order to take Empowered Action forward. In consistent, manageable steps. On. Their. Own. Terms.

Are you feeling me, Sister? I got you.  The key is to SIMPLIFY your life in all areas. Streamline things so the flow is, well, “flowy”. Keep the good stuff + get rid of the bad.  Right now, you’re rolling your eyes + saying, “yah right” + I feel you, but stick with me Kid, and we’ll go places.  Pinky swear.

Saying NO to things that no longer fit into the truth of how you want to live your life isn’t always easy but it’s necessary in order to become unstuck. They are called BOUNDARIES + creating them + sticking to them no matter what is a powerful way to unstick yourself + allow the flow of your life to just get on with it already! Boundaries are a whole other blog, but they are our friends + they deserve an honourable mention here today. Thanks Boundaries! Talk soon!

Streamlining Your Life

I am currently in the process of streamlining my life + my business + let me tell you how free I am feeling these days. I am out of the frazzled hustle + it just feels easier. We all want our lives to feel easier, don’t we? There’s something so magical about clearing clutter, making space + trimming the dead + unruly branches of our lives. Not only can we SEE things more clearly, but it gives us space to breathe. So, let’s start creating magic by simplifying our lives, becoming unstuck + moving forward in creating the lives we dream of allowing for optimal health + wellness, deep, harmonious relationships, solid finances, fulfilling careers + a strong connection to Mama Universe, trusting that she has our back on this but only when we tell the truth about what we truly want.  Ready?

As a Holistic Lifestyle + Mindset Coach, I try my best to live a healthy lifestyle. Is it perfect? Nah, but it’s balanced + in alignment with how I want to show up in the world. (most days).  I want to simplify things for you in a way that makes sense so let’s look at your life as a perfectly healthy + balanced plate of food. Yup. You heard me.  Eating healthy isn’t about restriction but adding an abundance of nutrient dense foods to fill your plate- quality proteins, healthy fats + loads of leafy greens. You are not taking away from your life, but you are adding MORE of the stuff that fuels you + feeds you + lights you up. You with me?

Introducing the Big 5 Areas of Life

So, I want to invite you to take a good look at the Big 5 areas of your life:

  • Career,
  • Finances,
  • Relationships,
  • Health +
  • Connection to That Which is Greater.

One at a time I invite you to explore the aspects of those areas that are sucking your energy with little to no return + start trimming. When you trim the fat, so to speak, you are left with only the good stuff. There is space for inspiration, space to flow, space to invite the people, experiences + things into your life that are in alignment with your goals + dreams that will energize you to become unstuck.

It’s a gift to be able to create the lives of our dreams + it all comes down to choices + Empowered Action Steps in the right direction.  Will you choose the life-sucking fat that’s keeping you stuck or the magical, energizing, flow-producing  nutrient-rich greens to fill your plate? You get to decide what stays + what goes. You just need to start + if you’re still stuck after trying this exercise, let’s talk.

I invite you to join the conversation. You can connect via Facebook, Instagram, or leave a comment right here on the blog.

With light, love + empowered action always,

Shari xo